Think about how many people want to lose some weight or get fitter, and then months later, they seem to have lost the urge? What happened? Typical excuses range from having no time, to it being boring, or the lack of results. Yet many will return again with a resolution the following year to do it all again.
Stop the madness I say! How can we break this cycle?
We have to start with our own minds, and allow ourselves not to sabotage our success. I’ve seen it, and heard it many times with people who want to achieve, and yet do not believe they are capable.
Let me use an example with my little guy on goals and beliefs. I think you’ll find it is very similar to the thought process others have regarding fitness:
Michael - Mommy, let’s do this kitten puzzle.
Me – Sure, let’s do it.
(We work on the puzzle for a few minutes.)
Michael – I don’t want to do this anymore.
Me – Why not?
Michael – I can’t do it.
Me – Sure you can.
Michael – No, I can’t. It’s too hard.
Me – Don’t you want to see it finished?
Michael – Yes, but I can’t do it.
(Michael had the goal, but didn’t believe he was capable. See what happens next.)
Me – Oh look, I found the kitten’s eye. Can you find the other eye?
Michael – Yeah, here it is.
Me – Great! What else can you find on a kitten’s head?
Michael – Ears and whiskers! Look what I found!
Me – Awesome! Can you try to put together those eyes, ears and whisker pieces?
Michael – Yeah!
We finished the puzzle and he was so proud of himself.
What transpired, was simply a parent’s belief in her child. I believed in his ability, I broke down the task into smaller chunks, and encouraged him. He always had the ability, but just wasn’t sure he could it.
This should be no surprise, but we all go through times of self-doubt. We have days when we feel that we can’t do it, and those excuses like “it’s too hard” and “it’s too time-consuming” discourage us into inactivity. Don’t let those days and times of doubt sabotage your success, or else, you may find yourself making the same resolution again.
Believing in yourself is the path to success.
For the times when you’re not sure you can get started or keep going.
- If you’re going to skip a day, remind yourself that skipping the first time only makes skipping again more likely. Delay the skipping as long as possible, and only when absolutely necessary.
- If you’re not convinced you want to do your activity, remind yourself how great you’ll feel during and afterwards.
- Ask for help! Get support from a trusted friend or family member who believes in you and will motivate you to get moving.
Lastly, acknowledge that there will be some days when you won’t believe. It’s okay, and very normal. What’s more important is what you do, in spite of those feelings.
- Daisy